So…R. Kelly got off and I’m loving it!
I caught a lot of slack for being happy that R. Kelly got off. As a woman, I guess I was supposed to be outraged that he pissed on a little girl and video taped it. (Yes, I’m acknowledging that more than likely it was him in the tape). As crazy as it may sound…I wasnt the least bit put off by R. Kelly when I first saw the tape in 2002. I actually laughed. Does this make me a bad person? Probably…but here’s why I feel the way I do:
First of all…I lack sympathy for the so-called ‘victim’ in the tape. As a 23 year old woman myself, I am the same age as the ‘victim’ and therefore I tried to put myself in her shoes. At 13, I had crushes..I liked boys…but what I WASNT doing is having sex with 30 year old men. Now a lot of people seem to think R. Kelly preyed on this young innocent thang. Umm…did ya’ll see the tape? Did the girl look like an amateur to you? I’m sorry…as many celebrity crushes as I had when i was 12-14…I would never..I repeat NEVER have been caught doing what this girl was doing on this tape. I had a lot of friends, however, who were very sexually active and actually were preying on older men. They wanted to be grown so they dressed and acted the part…and guess what? In most cases…they got what they were looking for. No, I’m not blaming the victim, I’m just keeping it real. Little hot in the trot girls do this stuff everyday…and nobody goes to jail…so why should R. Kelly?
Now dont get me wrong, I’m not condoning sex with a child. But the truth of the matter is, whether the man in the tape was 13 or 30…she would’ve still been screwing! The girl in the tape was FAR from a virgin. Instead of blaming R. Kelly, why arent people outraged that a girl her age was having sex in the first place? Did R. Kelly pop her cherry too? I think not! (and if he did..we havent seen the tape). This girl was far gone..regardless of this tape, and people need to stop finding scapegoats and address the real problem. If this girl had any type of female role model, perhaps a FATHER in her household to instill some self esteem, I promise you she wouldnt have been pissing on the floor or getting pissed on by R. Kelly or any other man on a video at 13. Lets stop sending people to jail and raise daughters and young women who respect themselves, who wont put on makeup and mini skirts so they can f*ck the hottest celebrity at the next concert. Save the rape convictions for the true rapists…those who FORCE sex on an UNWILLING participant violently..those who DESERVE life in prison..not a 15 year sentence.
On a more lighthearted note…I havent had any kids yet…and nobody does babymaking music the way R. Kelly does. If he was locked up…what would I make babies to??? I know this seems trivial, but as a long time fan of R. Kelly, he is hands down a mastermind when it comes to the bump n grind.